kindness, gentleness, self control and love.

Only you can decide if you are going to be in a good mood or a bad mood.
Very true. However today I stummbled across an odd situation in which I knew I was in a bad mood but while my brain clearly told me "be rational. you know you are in a mood. calm down and smile. you are only mad because you are hungry" my mood retorted with "make me!"
It was all I could do to say sorry to my husband (who was the only one on whom said mood was being unveiled to) and explain to him that while I knew myself to be in a mood and had the ability to change the negative atmosphere I was creating, my mood had taken me hostage and could I please ask his forgiveness in advance.
How exactly does one control ones body as christ compells us to do when ones body tells you to go get tossed?

1 Cor 9:24-28

The Need for Self-Discipline

 ²⁴ Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. ²⁵ Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. ²⁶ Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. ²⁷ No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.

I also learned an important thing about men today. Something I already knew but got a fresh revelation of. Guys respond to negative reinforcement. Tell them they cannot do something and by crikey they will try it. I guess the natural progression is that they just expect females to function the same way. Some girls do. But an awesome talk of security and whos job it was to make up for a lack of security in a relationship lead to an epiphany that girls respond better to positive reinforcement. Especially in sports. Whats the point in trying to impress someone when they tell you you suck at everything and the effort you're putting in isn't good enough?

I think the both of us are beginning to realise just how much God entrusted us with in a marriage. A marriage is meant to enhance you as a person. And sex is an addition to a healthy relationship not a substitution for talking. Love and respect, kindness and gentleness, self control and sex. They both have to go both ways or it just gets too draining on the other person.