Yesterday I started EC with my baby. Elimination Communication or natural infant hygiene is basically just a fancy name for "what-any-mum-would-do-if-nappies-didn't-exist".
The gist of this is just picking up when your baby needs to wee or poop using natural timing, cues from your baby and your own intuition. Intuition being a fancy way of saying your body picks up on something so subtle you don't know what it is.
It isn't all or nothing so I am doing it just during the day for now. I'm using a nappy as a back up in case I miss a pee, which can happen a lot because he has been in nappies for so long he has figured out he doesn't need to signal a pee any more.
Newborns are born ready to be "potty trained". They are able to control their own sphincter muscles. If you believe the twats that say it isn't true then just think how often a new born waits to pee or poop until just after you open the nappy. They have a natural instinct to eliminate waste away from their bodies.
over 80% of the worlds babies don't wear nappies and never have. In Africa a mum will carry around her infant in a sling and when she knows he has to pee she will take him over to a bush and let him go then stick him straight back in the sling. she wont get peed on either because babies don't like to dirty their own space. this is true of most baby mammals.
You say a cue word like "pss pss" when he wees and eventually you can get him to wee on cue if he is ready just by saying pss. it works for bed when I say "sleep time".
My reason for doing this is not that it uses far less nappies although that is good or that it means no nappy rash ever. My reason is simply that babies hate nappies as newborns but we teach them to accept sitting in their own crap until we are ready to change them and then when they are two we suddenly turn around and tell them that actually it's unacceptable to go toilet in your clothes. How confusing and shameful for them! and it's our fault for not paying enough attention. They tell us through a squirm or a grizzle that they need to go. Babies never just cry for no reason, that is just something we tell ourselves so that we don't have to try and tap in to the needs of someone who can't talk for themselves.
I have successfully caught 3 wees today :) and he had lots of naked time. also it is building the bond of trust between me and him. he knows he can tell me that he needs to go and i will listen. all the times he has been feeding and kept popping on and off are now explained. he just needed to wee and didn't want to piss on himself or me (the place where he lives and eats).
every time he has peed i have given him heaps of praise and he looks so proud of himself. hes happy and giggly and probably wondering why the heck it took so long for me to start paying attention to not just his eating and sleeping needs but his toileting needs too.
Hopefully this will continue and he will be fully independent from nappies at age 1.
Yay for successfully catching pees! I think it's really interesting that you point out that babies wait until the diaper - oops, nappy - is opened before they poop or happily spray us with pee (I have a boy). :) Looks like you are off to a great start! I am hoping it will continue for you!
ReplyDeletePS. I believe each parent knows what's best for their child, and I just wanted to share that during our ECing journey, I did start with praises ("Good job!") but now I shifted to reflecting ("You peed in your potty.") ;)